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13 Essential Bondage Gifts For Beginners

So you’ve been thinking about making your Valentine’s Day a little kinkier. You’ve come to the right place.

First, let’s set the mood.

1. SM 101: A Realistic Introduction

It’s vital to educate yourself first, and this book is great for both newbies to BDSM (erotic practices involving dominance and submission, roleplaying, and restraint) and those already in it to win it. This is a solid all-around guide for anyone who is seriously considering exploring safe, sane, and consensual BDSM. $20 here.

2. Classic Handcuffs

Nervous that your partner may not be into BDSM but still want to bring something unexpected to the bedroom? These are the perfect item to start your toy collection. $4.95 here.

This is a great multifunctional whip for newcomers. Made of genuine bull leather tresses, it’s soft enough for beginner play but heavy enough to deliver a firm whack if you wanna go up a level. The handle is hand-blown glass and doubles as a glass dildo for vaginal or anal play. It can also be heated or cooled for temperature play. $25 here.

4. Bondage in a Box Kit

 

Babeland is a great store with multiple locations in New York City and one in Seattle. Started by women, their primary focus was to create a woman-friendly sex shop where women can safely explore their sexuality. (But don’t worry boys, there are still plenty of great gifts in there for you, too.) This Bondage in a Box kit is $28 here.

Maybe you became curious about BDSM thanks to Fifty Shades of Grey. If that’s the case, you might want to add this replica of Christian Grey’s silky gray tie — perfect for blindfolding or binding — to your cart. $10.95 here.

6. Pinwheel

Yes, these can be sharp. But if (and only if) you know how to play it safe, this can provide the perfect amount of pain. Try using it on yourself first, it’s important to know what it might feel like to your partner. $3.69 here.

I mean, who doesn’t want to be caressed by a feather? The other side can be used for the occasional smack. $8 here.

8. Blindfold

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Elevate your senses by taking some away. Why? Because the surprises and touches will be that much better blindfolded. (And if all else fails you can always use it for sleeping.) $8 here.

9. Nipple Clamps

Getting ready to up the game? Try these. Totally adjustable and comfortable. $4.75 here.

10. Under the Bed Restraints

Got a sexy vacation coming up? These under-the-bed restraints are simpler than they look and fit any bed. They’re also small enough to store under the bed, so they’re ready when you are. $11.38 here.

Been thinking about kinbaku — which is Japanese for tight binding? These are essential for tying things up using simple yet visually intricate patterns. Looks difficult? Don’t worry it can be as easy as tying your shoes. $4.85 here. Still unsure? Check out The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage for in-depth tutorials and pictures. $22.59 here.

12. Bar Spreader

Both ankles and wrists can fit into this toy that reduces movement. This bar spreader is comfortable, fun, and easy to wear, with adjustable sizes. $17.99 here.

13. Ball Mouth Gag

A classic — with holes for easy breathing. $5.68 here.

Remember: The most important parts of BDSM are to be consensual, have fun and play safe!

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