15 Ways To Deal With Frustration As A Parent

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1. Take a deep breath.

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Sometimes this is all it takes to settle yourself when things get especially hairy.

2. Remind yourself you’re dealing with kids and not adults.


It’s easy to lose sight of this when you’re with your kids all day, but if your kids don’t act like adults it’s because they’re not. In fact, when you think about how little time they’ve been on this earth you might be impressed by how well they’re doing!

3. Talk to your partner or friends.

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Parenting can get lonesome, but if you voice your frustrations to your partner or a friend (ideally one who has kids of their own), you’ll feel a lot better.

4. Choose your battles.

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Is it really such a big deal which shirt your kid wears out to play? Sometimes it is, but often it isn’t. When it isn’t, let it go.

5. When disciplining your kid, make your point, then stop engaging.

It’s easy to get into a drawn-out battle with your kid, but no additional yelling is going to drum the point into their head any further once you’ve made it.

6. Remind yourself other people’s kids aren’t always angels either.

No matter what it may look like on social media, every kid — and I mean every single kid in your Facebook feed — has their trying moments too.

7. Go have some fun with your kid.

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This may sound counterintuitive when you’re frustrated with your kid, but doing something fun together diffuses tension and puts you in a better position to have a meaningful discussion about whatever problem you’re having.

8. Know your “button pushers.”


Is it back talk that upsets you the most? Or the shoes that are always left in the middle of the family room? If you pinpoint your “button pushers” it’ll be easier to keep your cool the next time one of them rears its ugly head.

9. Talk to your parents about what it was like raising you.


Listening to your parents talk about all of the times you frustrated them as a kid is a great way to put things in perspective.

10. If you need help, ask for it.


This could be anything from babysitting to therapy sessions, but you can’t get help if you don’t ask for it.

11. Keep a journal of the good moments.

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When you’re frustrated it’s easy to focus on the conflicts with your kids and forget the wonderful moments you’ve shared. If you keep a journal of these moments you’ll be able to flip through it when you need to and remember every unsolicited hug and shared laugh.

12. Try to figure out why your kids act the way they do.


If your kids repeatedly do something that drives you nuts, try to figure out why they’re doing it instead of just telling them to stop (which doesn’t really do much to change the situation).

13. Allow yourself a momentary case of “the fukkits.”

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If you’re having a tough time you should give yourself permission to ignore your “to-do list” for a bit. The dishes in the sink can wait.

14. Make — or schedule — some “me time.”


One of the biggest frustrations of being a parent is feeling like you no longer have any “me time.” Doing something for yourself — even if it’s just reading a book for five minutes — will help. Scheduling a time in the future when you will do something for yourself can have a calming effect, too.

15. Laugh.

You can laugh or you can cry as a parent, so why not laugh?

Read more: http://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/15-ways-to-deal-with-frustration-as-a-parent

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